Self-pleasuring for the woman is a super important practice to cultivate. The woman’s sexual energy really has to do with love in all its forms and so, the more we can cultivate self-love, the more we are able to love another and to love all beings.
Ma Ananda Sarita speaks about importance of self pleasure practice.
Self-pleasuring for the woman is a super important practice to cultivate. Why is that?
Because the woman’s sexual energy really has to do with love in all its forms and so, the more we can cultivate self-love, the more we are able to love another and to love all beings.
If we approach the sex act as a beggar this will not help us; if we are saying, “Ah, I don’t have love. Please give it to me” and then the other is also in the same state, you just have two beggars in bed. That’s not serving anyone.
You need to be able to love yourself first and then to share that as an Empress with your lover as an overflowing delight, overflowing energy.
Every woman is so different
Every woman is so different and her needs are different and yet women have trouble expressing what they need or want and then if the man doesn’t give it to them they become resentful.
So, women, if you can learn how your own body functions, what gives you pleasure, you will then be able to communicate that with your man and he will willingly, in an honouring way, provide that for you, because it is every man’s longing to provide for his woman.
He really wants to give you pleasure but he needs to know how to do it and often because woman’s intuitive capacity is very developed she is imagining that he has the same kind of intuition and that he should somehow know what she is feeling or thinking and he doesn’t so learn how to give yourself pleasure and share that with your lover.
Deprogramming and reprogramming your body
Another aspect which is really important for the woman also has to do with deprogramming and reprogramming your body because many women are not really satisfied with how they go into orgasm – they would like it to be somehow different. They imagine, “Yes, I want full body orgasm, I want amrita, I want the cervical orgasm” and they (are) judging themselves about how they orgasm.
If you don’t like how you orgasm you can train yourself to have orgasm in all of these multiple ways.